Any parent will be catapulted into an uncertain world as soon as they have a child who is born with physical or emotional problems.
In my own case my parents spent a lot more time with me between the various appointments I had. When I wasn’t in weekly physiotherapy; at the hospital; or doing my daily exercises, I was treated pretty much the same as my sisters. I used to get mandatory sweets before every hospital visit, which of course my siblings never got. Going on these appointments, felt like my parents were getting the job done. It was something I endured.
I have seen for myself how it works when parents choose to make a difference between their children. It begins to manifest itself in many ways and for many reasons and although outsiders see the way some parents behave, it’s not always easy for parents to see it themselves. Other parents of course often see themselves treating their children differently because they feel it’s necessary, given what they deal with.
Of course children born into families whose culture is central to their lives will fall into that category; but in other families parents may feel forced to behave differently with one child particularly if that child happens to be dealing with physical or emotional problems. They tend to make allowances for that child, because they either feel guilty or in some way feel they are responsible.
Children will always have to deal with different things, that’s a given but should always be brought up in the same way regardless of what’s going on. Whether we’re dealing with a newborn baby or dealing with a disabled child it’s important to get the balance right, so differences aren’t made between children. Unfortunately differences in childhood will always manifest itself into negative adult behavior and sibling rivalry.
There will of course be times when we have to give more time to one child for obvious reasons, but once that’s done; I think siblings should be treated equally.