Recognising parenting traits

Having written down some of what I see as my failings, I have come to realise that those failures were not down to me, but down to parental issues of me. But it’s up to us take control of what we fail at so we can take back control. I know that now.

Below are some questions that could help assess where we are:

  • Are you productive or non-productive?
  • Do you continually blame your parents for your life?
  • Are you happy to take control or do your parents control you?
  • Do you find yourself doing as your parents have done?
  • Are you continuing to repeat the same mistakes as your parents?
  • Are you living with the same bad habits or patterns?
  • Are you in a rut and don’t know how to change your life?

As children, we form the patterns set out by our parents, until we learn how to change them. Recognition is the key to change, particularly around bad habits. I had to be we prepared to change the way I thought and the way I used to react to things. You can too.

Positive affirmations that work on the subconscious brain, helped change some of my thinking. The rest came about through confidence. Confidence to believe I could contribute to my life positively, through new eyes.


6 Feb, 2011

4 thoughts on “Recognising parenting traits

  1. I can answer these questions mostly negatively.

    I think I’m lazy to a point… and I don’t like confrontation. Now my daughter on the other hand will confront anyone if she feels strongly enough and I guess that’s one trait she got from her father.

    Most of my negativity comes from my father. Definitely not my mom… and I procrastinate terribly. I don’t know where that came from. I think I just get tired of things and give up. This needs to change.

    I keep thinking things will be great one day but I’ve got to do something for that day to happen. I’ve got to learn to take charge if it’s going to happen. Yeah I’m in a rut but slowly learning how to get out of it.

    I’m a little impatient with myself and get aggravated and give in to others. So there’s another thing that needs to change. I’m slowly getting there.

    1. Lisa these traits are more common than you think, so you’re probably not alone.

      Answering these questions honestly has given you the opportunity to see first hand your behavior traits.

      What I like is that you try and don’t give up, I believe it will come.

  2. With me I am waiting for a time that I will be free to make my own decisions.

    I realise the situation I am in now will not last forever. I am willing to wait to get what I want. I just have to hang on and do what I am doing for now.

    I believe in time I will get what I want. I hold on to that belief. I have to to keep going.

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