When our world seems to collapse around us, we will lose our perspective. Dealing with any kind of trauma makes us feel like that. When the assault took place, I began to blank it out for a while. That was my coping mechanism for the first few weeks.
I knew that what had happened still lurked in the background and that I’d still have the problem to deal with, but I needed time to adjust. I had lost sight of how I was supposed to deal with it.
How do we get a positive perspective back?
- Acknowledge that what has happened, happened and give yourself time. You’ll never move past the setbacks if you don’t manage some form of acknowledgment;
- Put your setbacks into context. As clichéd as that sounds, it needs to happen if you are to have a chance of finding a more positive take on things;
- There is always something positive that comes out of something negative. It’s not always clear at the time, but when we look back it’s obvious;
- Look for a reason, it’s always there. If the situation was out of your control and there was nothing you could do, let go and move on with your life.
When we allow ourselves to be drawn into the trauma, we will begin to understand what we’re dealing with and it’s through our understanding that we will find a way to move forward.
Forward enough to regain a more positive perspective on our issues, everything we must deal with that involves our experiences around trauma.