Regaining our perspective

When our world seems to collapse around us, we will lose our perspective. Dealing with any kind of trauma makes us feel like that. When the assault took place, I began to blank it out for a while. That was my coping mechanism for the first few weeks.

I knew that what had happened still lurked in the background and that I’d still have the problem to deal with, but I needed time to adjust. I had lost sight of how I was supposed to deal with it.

How do we get a positive perspective back?

  • Acknowledge that what has happened, happened and give yourself time. You’ll never move past the setbacks if you don’t manage some form of acknowledgment;
  • Put your setbacks into context. As clichéd as that sounds, it needs to happen if you are to have a chance of finding a more positive take on things;
  • There is always something positive that comes out of something negative. It’s not always clear at the time, but when we look back it’s obvious;
  • Look for a reason, it’s always there. If the situation was out of your control and there was nothing you could do, let go and move on with your life.

When we allow ourselves to be drawn into the trauma, we will begin to understand what we’re dealing with and it’s through our understanding that we will find a way to move forward.

Forward enough to regain a more positive perspective on our issues, everything we must deal with that involves our experiences around trauma.


15 Mar, 2012

4 thoughts on “Regaining our perspective

  1. Great post. It’s is easy to lose perspective when things seem to be hard.

    The four suggestions you make are great. As ever it’s realising the need to take a step back and assess your situation from a little distance that is the most difficult.

    1. Thank you. It’s easy to lose sight of our need to take a step back. I think if we managed to do that, we’d sort our problems out a lot quicker than we sometimes do.

  2. I lost perspective when my father died and I crashed hard. Everything fell apart, even my health.

    I became very anemic and just lost it one day, but I got it back together with the help of my husband.

    I agree with you. It’s easy to do when we don’t know how to control our feelings and realize what is happening.

    1. I’m sorry to hear that Lisa, but I am so pleased you managed to work through things.

      Sometimes it takes for us to hit rock bottom, before we begin to realise we have to do something about how we feel; to perhaps regain our perspective on what’s going on around us.

      It’s hard and from my own experience, I find a step back to reassess always helps. We just have to remember to take it.

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