Resisting change
12 Jan
Resistance to change is brought about by our inability to accept that the life we had isn’t the life we’ve got now. Any circumstances will always be part of the universal resistance, which means the more we resist, the more we draw those circumstances to us.
Some of us will worry that because we have to deal with change, we will lose control; but it stands to reason that if we have control before the time we have to change, we’ll have control through change and beyond it. For some, change may interfere with their independence, but for others change may mean the total opposite when through new circumstances they become free of their restraints.
We’re only human of course and we’re creatures of habit; we like to follow the same routines and aren’t always good with change. Change isn’t a habit because it’s not something that happens frequently enough and having to work through it can be an uncomfortable experience. Change is about opportunity, growth, spiritually emotionally and physically.
Change also gives us the opportunity to try our hand at something new; change allows us to recreate ourselves; to go on to experience new opportunities, without which we’d probably miss out on many an opportunities.
What are the problems with resisting change? We’ll always stay stuck in the past, OR we’re not mature enough to deal with change, OR we’ll never learn how to deal with new routines with new people.
Why we’re not happy to change? We’re happy with what we know, OR we’re comfortable in our comfort zones.
Finally, circumstances will change whether we’re ready for them to change or not. What we need to do, therefore, is introduce and use strategies to help us adapt to those changes.
Change can be scary for some people. We’re so very comfortable with the pro quo that we don’t want to change.
But you’re right how can we experience new things and an even easier life if we don’t change. It could mean life and death for some due to bad habits.
Changing to good habits can open a whole new world to us, but we’ll never know if we don’t change and try it.
Thanks Lisa. Agreed. We must feel the fear. In my opinion We lose more by not trying than if we try and revert back.
Change is something that happens. It can get a person a kick in the behind, when they need it. Yes it is difficult sometimes but a necessary part of life.
Nothing stays the same forever.
Absolutely right Randy. Change is very much a necessary part of life. I am not sure being honest, I would want things to stay the same all the time. How dull would that be?
Unfortunately the only thing constant in life is change! I dealt with so much change as a child that it’s something I don’t really care for now. It’s nice to have things stay the same in some areas, such as being able to have a routine.
There are times where avoiding it can be a serious problem considering it can cause a person to be stuck in the past, like someone had mentioned! It would just be nice to be able to have some amount of control over the changes in my life which isn’t always possible.
I just have to learn how to deal with change now, where I can actually do something about it and don’t have to just take things the way that they are.
You’re right Randy, change is a constant in life. That’s guaranteed, but I believe we are responsible for the changes we want to see. No one has to take things the way they are if they’re not happy to live their lives that way.
Whether we’re in a relationship or not, if there’s something we’re not happy with, we’re entitled to either say something or do something about it. I agree that having too much change can be detrimental to our emotional well-being, particularly if we go through too much change as a child and we’re not prepared mentally for it.
I believe change is good, as long as it’s not something we have to endure all the time. A little change goes a long way to help us grow and mature into the people we become as adults.