Role models

I believe children are lucky if they can look back on their formative years and embrace memories of a wonderful childhood with such positive role models. How many of us can say that we had the most amazing role models growing up?

I think a generation makes a big difference in terms of the values parents instil in their children, as it does to parents making good role models. Values change through outside influences, through society and institutions and with those we change, not always for the better.

Whether parents are good role models or not, what we learn from them stays firmly etched. If we’re lucky enough to have two parents, both parents will contribute to the relationship, not necessarily together, sometimes sending out mixed messages, as their children will try to compete.

Teachers may go on to influence our children, with their passion and enthusiasm for teaching. A grandparent, an aunt, anyone who has compassion and a caring nature, will have an influence on that child’s life, but of course there will always be some adults who don’t make good role models. Families aren’t always the best role models.

As parents, we get one shot at making a difference in our children’s lives. I have always given of my best to make sure my children’s experiences are positive, as they journey through their own lives.

Unfortunately, we can never know until they’re through the other end whether this will be the case.


17 Dec, 2010

6 thoughts on “Role models

  1. I think most parents make good role models for their children. But there are those that fail, so their children look elsewhere for role models especially if the parents don’t take the time to spend time with their children. This can be a bad thing for some because the role models they choose may not be the best for them.

    Other role models like grandparents, teachers, leaders in their church and other family members are also great role models. We just don’t want our children to see role model who are a bad influence. That’s why parents should be involved in their children’s life and have a great relationship with them.

    1. I am sure there are parents who do make great role models Lisa, but this isn’t something I have seen and probably doesn’t happen for all children. A lot I believe depends on what our parents’ role models for them were.

      There are also people in the professions you have mentioned who of course make good role models, but again as with all professions there are also not so good role models, that years later we get to find out because they make headlines for all the wrong reasons. I know someone personally who suffered abuse.

      I am sure there will be parents and other people I don’t know about who do make good role models.

  2. I think that in today’s society, good role model are few and far between and so because children look desperately for these role models, they pick the wrong ones.

    Musician and actors or actress’s have become the role models of today and when they get into trouble and go to jail, then jail becomes chic. Heroin has also become fashionable.

    I think the youth of today don’t know how to pick a role model and when they do the role model most often turns out to be a bad influence. Even sports figures are getting into trouble with the law and on the field.

    This all adds up to one thing and that we must define what a role model should be and help our children in this choice.

    1. I think there is definitely something in what you say Brian, but most of these role models are parents too. It is a shame that they aren’t fulfilling that role first, doing it well then working on their professional careers.

      As with all things in life, some things have to give. In my opinion, it is very difficult to have a successful career and successful children. It’s very hard to do both well.

  3. I told you I would be here. Boy you’ve been through a lot lately. We can support each other. Just keep going and keep doing what you’ve been doing. I know it’s vary hard sometimes.

    I cried today. Nikki took off today, and the staff have been different from normal. It’s been hard since my grandma passed away.

    Let’s keep playing games together okay on Facebook. Thanks for chatting today. I read your 17 18 20 22 journals. They’re pretty good and emotional. Have a good night!

    1. Thanks Colleen. So pleased you’re back on site. I’ll keep doing what I’m doing, but I want you to do the same too! It’s nice that we can support one another. Sorry to hear about your grandmother. I’m here for you.

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