I believe children are lucky if they can look back on their formative years and embrace memories of a wonderful childhood with such positive role models. How many of us can say that we had the most amazing role models growing up?
I think a generation makes a big difference in terms of the values parents instil in their children, as it does to parents making good role models. Values change through outside influences, through society and institutions and with those we change, not always for the better.
Whether parents are good role models or not, what we learn from them stays firmly etched. If we’re lucky enough to have two parents, both parents will contribute to the relationship, not necessarily together, sometimes sending out mixed messages, as their children will try to compete.
Teachers may go on to influence our children, with their passion and enthusiasm for teaching. A grandparent, an aunt, anyone who has compassion and a caring nature, will have an influence on that child’s life, but of course there will always be some adults who don’t make good role models. Families aren’t always the best role models.
As parents, we get one shot at making a difference in our children’s lives. I have always given of my best to make sure my children’s experiences are positive, as they journey through their own lives.
Unfortunately, we can never know until they’re through the other end whether this will be the case.