The younger we are the more open we are to change; the older we are the more resistant to change we become. The reality for all of us is that change will happen, whether we’re ready for it or not.
How we perceive and adapt to change will always determine our health and wellbeing. There’s no getting away from that. Research carried out by the National Institute of Health, concludes that as we age, we become less receptive to certain changes. I believe that is partly true.
Our circumstances usually dictate our openness to change, although I believe our upbringing helps us deal with change more positively. Life is full of change, but learning from childhood is the best time to learn. As children we have no choice but to adapt to the constant changes we face in life, the best time to learn.
In our twenties we invite change into our lives as part of our personal growth. We usually seek out a path for ourselves and then in our thirties our thoughts change again and we’re less open to change, as we begin to look for more stability in our lives. We’re less inclined to change; more inclined to want stability in our lives and a life we’re familiar with.
Although life dictates the different stages and how we’re more likely to react, at the end of the day we are free to make our own choices. There are those who will be more hesitant in their thirties, forties and even fifties, but I believe spiritual growth plays the biggest part. We become more open to change through spiritual and emotional growth, regardless of age. Some of my biggest changes were made in my mid thirties to late forties.
However, culture and society dictate our ability to grow, restrict growth and for us to change comfortably. I also think being on our own for most of our adult life brings these problems into the equation. We’re less likely to want or to start adapting to change later on. We know what we know. We feel comfortable with where we are.
Finally, it’s easy to stigmatise and put people into boxes on how they behave. At the end of the day it is up to the individual, as I have shown.