Parents tend to set the standards from a very early age. Children are not only influenced by their parents, but are also influenced by extended family.
Those early influences will influence every decision we go on to make in our adult years. We all have different core values and it’s those that can be the conflict between families. Values are what we attach importance to, or judge as being important or valuable. Values give our life meaning and together with understanding make us more humble, more grounded.
Other factors may include a child’s education, external influences and culture which all play its part. Values are the building blocks on how we choose to live our lives. Our values help us to decide what’s right and what’s wrong.
Children will always have external influences, but those influences should not set the standard above the standards set out by the parents, otherwise it will only lead to internal conflict.
Unfortunately, it’s often the outside influences that interfere with the parents’ role where the parent is having to compete with their child.