As a child growing up with anger issues centred around my physical and emotional issues, it was easy for others to blame me for something they did.
If like me growing up you got blamed and weren’t always believed, it’s possible that you would always continue to struggle. My mum would often recite the ‘sticks and stones may break my bones, but calling names won’t harm me,’ quote at me, as if what happened wasn’t important and I had to let the issue or argument go.
Sadly, whether we’re on the receiving end of any argument, unless that argument is redressed, we will always be on the receiving end of it. Personally, I don’t believe the saying is true. To me it’s a cop-out which allows others to say what they want to say, without what they say being addressed or corrected by those who should be mediating in the first place.
If someone continues to say something for long enough about us, or continues to call us names, eventually those things will stick. The psyche works in such a way that eventually we will not only go on to believe what we’re told, but those words will eventually stick and hurt us.
From my experiences growing up where others sadly won’t back down, it is us who must deal with it.