Home should be a sanctuary, a place where once the door is closed we have peace with ourselves and each other. It’s easy to assume stress is all about work, but our homes sadly are the catalyst for stress.
Children will also deal with their own stress, but they may not always be able to express themselves, talk about what they feel. They may not always feel they can talk to their parents or that their parents will understand what they go through, particularly during their teenage years and as parents, we may not always feel our children understand the pressures we’re under.
As hard as it is being a child, it’s even more difficult being a parent with all the responsibilities that come with the role. Understanding each other’s needs can be difficult. When we’re stressed, others will know we’re stressed, but are not always aware or equate that we’re stressed. When we’re stressed we tend to switch off to what’s going on around us.
We don’t always make an effort when we’re stressed. We may also perceive and interpret discussions wrongly because our mind’s elsewhere and we’re not listening. We may also take family for granted and make less of an effort. All of these things bring about added stress, but perhaps we must try to stand back and think about what we say and how we say things, so as not to offend.
If we all thought about what we say, or how we say what we say, we wouldn’t say half the things we come out with. It’s important we listen, be compassionate, tolerant, caring and throw some give and take in for good measure.
As a family, we must work together to limit the amount of stress that’s brought into the home. We must also talk about things.