I have learned that not all support makes good support. It’s only when we come to lose someone that we have time to reflect where we are with the support we’ve had. It goes without saying that support needs to work and be right if we are to function comfortably in our lives.
We need people around us who will listen, people who don’t constantly stand in judgment or challenge us. We need people who will allow us to talk openly about what we deal with, without ignoring our comments and coming back in on what they deal with, like they’ve not heard what we’ve said.
If the support we have isn’t working, we must all look at changing how we support. We should try to work on the support we have so that what we have works for us. We should also give support back where we can.
Support should be a two-way street. I’d rather learn to support myself than have the wrong support. But ideally, we must all work together and support each other.