Taking responsibility

Responsibility is about understanding our lives without the need to rely or try to please others to do it. And where others have wronged us, we must still take responsibility. No one else can put our lives back on track, we must do that for ourselves.

We apportion a lot of what happens to us on our past and although that happens, particularly around parents and siblings, it doesn’t help because we still have to function, and take responsibility for ourselves.

We tend to stock up a list of wrongs by the time we become adults, but never seem to take responsibility on how we can help contribute to more positive outcomes, beyond those times. We may think we walk away with our characters intact, but sadly that’s not always the case.

Resentments, problems and injustices will always begin to surface around our parents and siblings and a consequence of that is we will drift apart. Blaming our life on others and how our lives turn out really doesn’t help, primarily because it can’t change anything.

We must instead choose to take responsibility and move on with our lives.


24 Oct, 2010

6 thoughts on “Taking responsibility

  1. I agree. As adults we can sort things out better than when we were younger. Making the right choices are so much better for us in the long run. We need to learn how to forgive others and know that no one is perfect.

    In the end we will all sleep better at night because we’ll have a clearer conscience. If others don’t get it, just know we tried and it’s not our fault. Very thought provoking post Ilana. Thank you for everything!

    1. I agree that as adults we can sort things out better than when we’re children, but patterns form and they’re very hard to shift. One of the reasons why many adults don’t go on to change their lives, they just live with them. I believe it can be done.

      Thanks for your support Lisa. You’re a gem!

  2. I really like today’s topic. It is the catalyst that transformed my life into true maturity. I had so many memories of the dysfunctional behavior I grew up with in my family, however these thoughts and sometimes convoluted memories had been cemented in my mind while thinking as a child.

    As any child I was the center of my universe and therefore thought every ones behavior was directed at me choreographed with me as the centerpiece. This left me blaming everyone else for my emotional stability.

    This kind of immaturity led to a miserable life until I finally figured life out and started to take responsibility for my own life. It took me finally seeing my mistakes and realizing that we are all just human beings and subject to our own shortcomings.

    Today I live a life of self reflection and living for today being the best Brian possible.

    1. Brian I am so proud and pleased to know you. Your positive attitude to your life and what you have dealt with, with your family being dysfunctional is an inspiration. Nice to see that you work on being the best that you can be.

  3. I completely agree in that one’s path in life is never set in stone. It’s possible to change but you have to want it bad enough and be dedicated to the cause in order for that work. Nobody ever said getting what you want or what you think is best/right was easy but it is attainable overtime.

    1. For some people this works LeAnna, but unfortunately others don’t manage to change their path in life, however hard they try.

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