Taking responsibility

When I first started writing for my site, I wrote a blog asking myself why we pleased others. Now I believe we must do what’s right for us. The buck stops with us.

No one else in our lives will and can put our lives back on track, we must also do it for ourselves. Dig deep, search your sole and you’ll find the answers as to why your life has turned out the way it has.

We apportion a lot of what happens in our lives on our past and that’s true, particularly where parents and siblings are concerned. We tend to stock up a list of faults or problems by the time were adults, but never take responsibility on how we can contribute to a more positive outcome, beyond those times.

On occasions, we may think we’ve walked away with our characters intact, but that’s often not the case. Resentments, problems and injustices will always begin to surface around our parents and siblings and the consequence of that is that we will drift apart.

As hard as it is, as the adult we must take responsibility and control back so that we can begin to build new bridges, get ourselves back on track and so that we bring harmony and peace back into our lives. Without taking responsibility we will always look to and continue to blame others. I didn’t have any choices growing up, so turning things around came late for me.

It was only when I started to take control back that I understood how and where I needed to make the changes. My Diary is a culmination of my experiences and deciding I needed to take back control on others’ thinking.

I don’t believe any one of us need to stay where we are. Some of us may not have had many choices growing up, but as adults we do have choices. Our choices will take us down the path we want to go. Not always easy, but I believe it can be achieved.


24 Oct, 2010

6 thoughts on “Taking responsibility

  1. I agree. As adults we can sort things out better than when we were younger. Making the right choices are so much better for us in the long run. We need to learn how to forgive others and know that no one is perfect.

    In the end we will all sleep better at night because we’ll have a clearer conscience. If others don’t get it, just know we tried and it’s not our fault. Very thought provoking post Ilana. Thank you for everything!

    1. I agree that as adults we can sort things out better than when we’re children, but patterns form and they’re very hard to shift. One of the reasons why many adults don’t go on to change their lives, they just live with them. I believe it can be done.

      Thanks for your support Lisa. You’re a gem!

  2. I really like today’s topic. It is the catalyst that transformed my life into true maturity. I had so many memories of the dysfunctional behavior I grew up with in my family, however these thoughts and sometimes convoluted memories had been cemented in my mind while thinking as a child.

    As any child I was the center of my universe and therefore thought every ones behavior was directed at me choreographed with me as the centerpiece. This left me blaming everyone else for my emotional stability.

    This kind of immaturity led to a miserable life until I finally figured life out and started to take responsibility for my own life. It took me finally seeing my mistakes and realizing that we are all just human beings and subject to our own shortcomings.

    Today I live a life of self reflection and living for today being the best Brian possible.

    1. Brian I am so proud and pleased to know you. Your positive attitude to your life and what you have dealt with, with your family being dysfunctional is an inspiration. Nice to see that you work on being the best that you can be.

  3. I completely agree in that one’s path in life is never set in stone. It’s possible to change but you have to want it bad enough and be dedicated to the cause in order for that work. Nobody ever said getting what you want or what you think is best/right was easy but it is attainable overtime.

    1. For some people this works LeAnna, but unfortunately others don’t manage to change their path in life, however hard they try.

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