The importance of forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. When we lose someone special we grieve for the loss of that person. When we go think about forgiveness, perhaps we we should try to do the same.

When we have been wronged, we should allow ourselves to feel anger; we should allow ourselves to feel the hurt. The idea is that after a short time we are ready to move on, but not all of us will feel that we can move on. Some situations may seem less forgiving than other situations and because of those situations many of us tend to hang on to resentment.

What we should be concentrating on is the act of forgiving, but first we must look at the circumstances behind why we are trying to forgive. The act of forgiving is the same no matter what we’re working on. When we focus on kindness and gratitude we let go of the anger and hurt that we feel. The execution of forgiving someone can be hard, but not impossible.

The link between health and forgiveness is too great to ignore. When we forgive, we let go of anger and resentment and letting go of anger and resentment, will allow us to heal emotionally, physically and spirituality. It’s hard to understand why people do the things they do, but part of the act of forgiving is to understand why.

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean we condone others’ actions, or they’re not accountable for what they’ve done, but what it means is that we allow ourselves to move forward with our lives without holding on to anger or resentment.

I believe that if we are okay in our own lives we get to have a life. Holding on to anger and resentment changes that.


20 May, 2011

4 thoughts on “The importance of forgiveness

  1. Funny you should have this topic.

    I have just forgiven a friend of mine for something he did 6 years ago. It’s not healthy to hold on to something that happened that long ago that has no bearing on today.

    I do feel better about it plus it affected another friendship I had because my friend had to basically take sides. Now we are all together again like it should be.

    1. You’re right Randy. It’s not healthy.

      It’s also far easier to work on forgiveness, than to hold on to something that happened many years ago. Ill feeling tends to magnify itself and can have a negative bearing on our health in the longer term.

      If they are friends they will understand and will try to work things out.

  2. I totally agree with you. We should forgive others, because it does hurt us in the long run. It’s not healthy.

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