“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” – Anais Nin.
How different relationships would be, how much easier our lives would be if we saw things as they are and not how we are, or how we interpret them. Seeing things as we are identifies the wrong scenario to how things really are. We mistake our view of the world with the world itself.
It does go some way to explain, however, why people struggle to understand each other in the way they do. It also goes some way to explain why we constantly interpret conversations and put a different spin on them.
Why we’re quick to pick fault and pigeonhole others into believing they’re a certain way, when in fact the way we’re seeing them is the way we are and not the way they are.
I do think it important that we stand back on the different scenarios, so that we live life through a different colour lens to the one we’re living through. That way we’re more likely to make more accurate decisions for ourselves about other people and get those decisions right.
When we stand in judgment of someone, we judge that person through how we judge and see ourselves. That’s okay of course if we we’re optimistic by nature, but if we constantly have a negative spin on life, we’ll always see other people in the same negative way and that’s not right or fair.
We must learn to see people as they are and not as we are. That I believe is so important.