We all have uncertainty and unpredictability in our lives, but if like me you’re dealing with more than one and your life seems like its chaos, you’re going to have to find a way through. Giving up isn’t an option.
The problem I have is that I’m looking at my problems in one batch. When I think about what I’ve dealt with over the last few years and what I still have to deal with, I shudder at the thought of what is yet to come.
The one surety and certainty we have is that problems don’t stay problems, we just think they do. As there is a beginning, there is a middle and an end so too will our problems end. Even if the problem isn’t the outcome we want, we’ll have closure one way or another. The easiest way to deal with problems is to acknowledge the fact they exist.
Through the chaos, we need to accept the problems we have in their entirety, so that we’re emotionally ready to deal with them. When we over dramatise or complicate matters, our thoughts will usually go into overdrive. Unfortunately, if and when that happens, emotionally we’ll get lost in the process and will lose control of what we’re trying to deal with and as a consequence, our thoughts and feelings will begin to control us.
Easier said than done of course, but the answers are there for us to have and own, we just don’t know it yet. As we continue to work through the process, try not to be dictated by other people’s thoughts on what we’re dealing with, we’ll find a way through. What works for them may not work for you.
Of course we can never control the outcome, but we can control how we get to the outcome, so that we finally make it through the chaos.