Each of us is an individual and as such we grow up differently, depending on our parentage.
As a child, I was never encouraged to make choices about my life or where I wanted my life to go, so I didn’t have a chance to grow up emotionally and although I was holding down a job from the age of 18, I had no choice, but didn’t feel ready to take on the world.
When I moved on with my life at the age of 25, that’s when things slowly began to change for me. It was like being thrown in at the deep end without being taught to swim. At that time, never having been independent, I taught myself to make decisions, taught myself how to be independent.
I began to learn, began to grow and slowly began to change my life around. My priorities began to change. I found a voice in me that I never knew I had. For the first time I started to look at my own life. Of course, that all took time, well a few years, but eventually I began to alter my life and my attitude towards it.
I began to create my own emotional space. Without it, I believe we can never give of our best and may continue to struggle as individuals; if we’re already struggling. I also believe that emotional space together with time out helps us work on our relationships better.
As a species, we tend to take each other for granted and that’s when complacency sets in. Having space allows us to renew our relationships with a more positive outlook. So, the next time you want emotional space, or you want to catch up on a hobby, don’t feel so guilty about doing it.
You’ll be impressed by how remarkably relaxed you’ll get to feel having time for yourself.