Time to grow

Each of us is an individual and as such we grow up differently, depending on our parentage.

As a child, I was never encouraged to make choices about my life or where I wanted my life to go, so I didn’t have a chance to grow up emotionally and although I was holding down a job from the age of 18, I had no choice, but didn’t feel ready to take on the world.

When I moved on with my life at the age of 25, that’s when things slowly began to change for me. It was like being thrown in at the deep end without being taught to swim. At that time, never having been independent, I taught myself to make decisions, taught myself how to be independent.

I began to learn, began to grow and slowly began to change my life around. My priorities began to change. I found a voice in me that I never knew I had. For the first time I started to look at my own life. Of course, that all took time, well a few years, but eventually I began to alter my life and my attitude towards it.

I began to create my own emotional space. Without it, I believe we can never give of our best and may continue to struggle as individuals; if we’re already struggling. I also believe that emotional space together with time out helps us work on our relationships better.

As a species, we tend to take each other for granted and that’s when complacency sets in. Having space allows us to renew our relationships with a more positive outlook. So, the next time you want emotional space, or you want to catch up on a hobby, don’t feel so guilty about doing it.

You’ll be impressed by how remarkably relaxed you’ll get to feel having time for yourself.


12 Jan, 2012

6 thoughts on “Time to grow

  1. Because of my CP I had pretty much my career path mapped out for me, midway through high school.

    That was okay untill I found out later in life what I really had a passion for. If I had known this at an earlier age I would have gone in that direction. I think in the long run I would have been much happier.

    The moral is follow what you have a passion for. It is uplifting and makes work fun and rewarding.

    1. Your parents were probably cautious and wanted you to play it safe whilst helping you deal with your CP.

      From what you say, it sounds as though you weren’t altogether unhappy with the path you took; but would have preferred to have followed your own path with something you were interested in.

      I agree that should happen for all of us.

  2. Yes, it is a very good thing to take the time for yourself to grow.

    I don’t do that often enough, but I’m trying to change that. I’m hoping that in the future I won’t feel quite so guilty about it.

    Growth wasn’t exactly encouraged when I was a kid and it’s very difficult to change those patterns now!

    1. I completely understand. It’s not always easy to work out how to make the change for personal growth, but I believe we can all do it.

      It’s knowing how and sticking to the winning formula, without feeling guilty for doing it.

  3. I was never pointed in the way I should go. I had no encouragement. I had to figure out my life myself… and I really didn’t start doing it until I was around 30 and on my second marriage.

    I always wanted to be a nurse so I became one. Now I want to go further not necessarily with nursing but with holistic healthcare.

    Right now I can’t move forward with that until a few other things are settled, but I have time for me right now and I like it.

    I don’t feel guilty because I deserve it.

    1. I am pleased you don’t feel guilty Lisa. No reason why you should. It’s nice that you were able to do what you chose to do, even though it came to you later in your life.

      You got to do it and that’s the main thing.

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