Walk your own path

As human beings we are unique, as well as being individual. Even though we will experience similar or the same things in life, we will still be uniquely different.

No two people will see the same experiences in the same way. If we did, we’d all be clones of each other. Emotionally, things tend to get complicated, when we copy others. Unfortunately, expectations are put on us from a young age to behave in a certain way, or follow a certain career path.

We should walk our own path in life despite those external influences. It’s important for us to put our own stamp on our lives, make our own mistakes and take responsibility for the decisions we make. We must stick to our decisions.

Never be swayed into thinking your decision isn’t right, just because someone else has offered you an opinion, or another choice. Or feel guilt tripped into taking their choice, because you’re letting them down somehow. You’ll only be letting yourself down.

Unfortunately, if we let it, our core values become the values of our parents. Our thoughts are our parents’ thoughts too. If we’re lucky enough to be born to parents who allow us to make our own decisions, we’ll walk our own path in life as an adult. Sadly, that wasn’t afforded to me.

As a child, being told what to do all the time, meant I wasn’t allowed to make my own decisions. I was expected to take my parents’ decisions. Now of course I make my own decisions, but it’s taken me many years to be able to achieve that.

How do you walk your own path?

Choose to become independent, be an independent thinker; build confidence and self-esteem and have faith in your own abilities; to take control of your thoughts, your feelings and how you want to live your life and you will.


28 May, 2012

10 thoughts on “Walk your own path

  1. I’ve come to a point in my life where I’m just learning how to walk my own path, since it was never an option in my childhood.

    I was basically thrown to the wolves and only learned how to survive, instead of actually living. I’m hoping and praying that I can continue on the path to living my own life in the future.

    1. As children we cannot determine our lives, it’s usually our parents who do that for us, but as adults I believe we can.

      You’re learning to walk your own path now and that’s important.

  2. It is funny I have just written a blog about the individuality of every case of CP. My view point came from the symptoms being unique to the person and it is interesting how you have come from the personal angle.

    In my life I have gone against many people who have viewed my decision as wrong. Doctors told me a lot of things that I didn’t agree with.

    People told me not to start my own business and literary agents told me I’d only get published if I employed a ghost writer. I ignored their views and went my own way (sounds like the song).

    Sound words and thought provoking.

    1. Thanks Stuart. I think there’s a lesson in there for all of us!

      I’m pleased you made your own decisions regardless of what others wanted for you and that things worked out the way you planned. Truly inspirational.

  3. I’ve always walked my own path, have my own opinions, which have lead to many arguments. I don’t really care either.

    If other people don’t like my opinions or views, don’t ask for them.

    1. It took me a while to be able to walk my own path, so you’re lucky in that respect. Pleased you managed it.

      In my opinion, if someone asks for your opinion and they don’t take it, it’s often down to what they’re dealing with.

      If you’re being honest and most of us are when we offer advice back, it’s others not being able to accept our advice because our advice is the truth they don’t want to hear or have to deal with.

  4. My parents didn’t let me make my own decision most of the time. I was hovered over by them.

    It has taken me a while to learn to make independent decisions for myself. I still sometimes think about what others may think and sometimes I want to impress someone else!

    1. Your response to my blog is a carbon copy of my childhood growing up. I used to concern myself over what other people would think of my decisions, but then I realised my life was my life; my decisions had to be right for me, I would never be able to please everyone all of the time.

      From around the age of 25 I started to turn my life around as far as being independent was concerned, although it still took a few years to shake off the old patterns. Once I found my spiritual footing, I changed everything completely.

  5. As a child and teenager I always made my own decisions and that distanced me from my family, made me very independent and hardened me.

    I then went through a period of being pleasing, which when I look back was completely the wrong thing to do. I think I have since found a happy middle ground and I aim to stay here.

    1. Speaking for someone who wasn’t independent as a child you are lucky in many respects because you learned to look out for yourself. That not only teaches about ourselves, but helps us pave the way in the world.

      Of course it has its drawbacks, because you didn’t have the nurturing that every child needs and should have. It’s the nurturing that teaches us the fundamentals so that we can understand life and how to behave in it.

      It’s lovely to be able to please others, if it helps others and is a very spiritual thing to do, particularly if others need the help more than we do.

      I don’t see that as being wrong, although I think there has to be a balance so others don’t begin to take advantage. That unfortunately has become very commonplace in society.

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