We need to change

Unfortunately, if others doesn’t see an issue in their actions, they will never change. All we can do is change the way we see their actions. Their actions will always be their actions, without them recognising the need to change.

For as many years as I spent in counselling trying to sort out my childhood issues, brought about by family’s actions, I spent just as many years waiting for them to see how their actions were affecting me, in the hope they would change. I wasn’t getting it.

What we don’t always get, is that although others should change their actions, particularly if what they’re doing is affecting us, they aren’t always going to change and therefore it is us that need to change.


31 Mar, 2015

6 thoughts on “We need to change

  1. I agree and once the ‘penny drops’ and we realise we can change; we see people and their actions for what they really are not how they make us feel.

  2. We can’t wait forever for someone to change for the better.

    Since we can’t make people change, we just need to realize that we have been hurt enough by their attitude and move on.

    1. Thanks Maria. When we don’t understand the signs (and it took me many years to understand) we continue to hope that our circumstances will change, but of course they never do.

      I agree with you though when you say we need to realise that we have been hurt enough; but from my own experience, it’s not always easy to move on when we’re constantly in contact with that person.

      It’s easier of course if we are able to move away from them.

  3. It bothers me when people fling their actions haphazardly without calculating or caring about how their actions may affect other people; it’s frightening to say the least.

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