When I look at my father I see my life and am saddened that he never gave me the opportunities to aspire to be anything. What makes this serve as a gentle reminder is that in 9 months time Claudia starts her new life at university. As I continue to watch my father’s health deteriorate I know that I could never have changed my life and that makes me very annoyed, particularly as I chose to make a difference in my children’s lives so that they could aspire to their own success stories, regardless of what I ‘d had or had to deal with. I was determined not to make my issues their issues. That wouldn’t have been right or fair. He could have done that too.