As we journey through life, we accumulate various behaviour patterns, which if we let them, keep us permanently stuck; as those patterns continue to impact our lives.
As a child that thought wasn’t something I was consciously aware of, though looking back now there was a part of me that did want to change; but I didn’t have enough understanding around my circumstances to give me clear direction. I can see that now; I didn’t see it back then. If someone had have waved a magic wand, I would have wanted a different path.
We spend our lives convincing ourselves that it’s not us with the problem and I know that in my case it wasn’t my problem; but there will always be certain aspects we can change and may want to change, regardless of who is at fault. It’s only when we begin to struggle with certain aspects of our life that we begin to see that perhaps we do need to change.
What keeps us stuck?
We stay stuck when:
- We continue to blame others for our lives;
- We’re unsure how to move forward;
- We’re literally stuck in a rut;
- We fail to understand our lives up to that point;
- We tell ourselves there is little point because things won’t change;
- We’re not emotionally ready to move on and deal with our behaviour.
We’re subconsciously comfortable that way and become scared at the prospect of having to work through any changes, however small. One thing I know is that when we finally decide it’s time to deal with those familiar behaviour patterns that tend to keep us stuck, we will finally move on.
I know because I was that child.