Although they say, “what we don’t know can’t hurt.” In theory, of course that may be true, but it’s not realistic to think we will never know or get to find out and that when we do it won’t hurt.
Finding out about anything that you didn’t know before, brings with it new understanding, not necessarily in a good way. I believe it very much depends on what we don’t know about and whether getting to know about that thing changes the way we think about ourselves, or others who are clearly guilty of ignoring our needs.
I can’t agree that not knowing doesn’t hurt. It very much does. That not knowing somehow implies that we’ll never get to find out and that simply isn’t true. Holding back on something someone needs to know, isn’t something that will stay buried.
It’s naïve to think that if we don’t say anything that something will stay dead and buried. No diagnosis for me would never be something that could be withheld from me indefinitely. As a child always asking questions, the universe was completely aware of my struggles.
I think that whatever we don’t know does hurt, particularly if the information we’ve been longing for has been selfishly or wilfully withheld and is too big a secret to keep. I’ve turned knowing late in life that I had Cerebral Palsy into something positive, but if I hadn’t been emotionally strong, I could easily have gone off the rails.
It will always hurt to get to know something that we later go on to find out. It becomes even more hurtful, when we come to realise that the people who should have protected us, simply chose to expose us.