When we hold back

How many of us start out with good intentions of changing or working through something then give up at the first hurdle?

Any decision that we make, that gets in the way of either accomplishing or achieving what we set out to do, is self-sabotage. When we do this, it’s normally because we lack discipline or motivation, the two key elements that allow us to carry out these tasks, however long those tasks take us.

I think to some extent we may all do this. Learned behaviour sets in and the pattern is formed, but either way we need to be committed to change. As a child not given much of a choice of how or what I did in life meant it would have been difficult to involve myself.

Any change seems daunting but I believe that is why some of us choose subconsciously not to change. It’s not a conscious decision. I remember being asked to go and spend time with my cousin for a few days and had travelled just a short distance when panic set in. I froze and couldn’t go any further.

We believe we can’t do these things, then make a list of excuses as to why we can’t. As a child, this is more commonplace. I believe as an adult there are ways to work to change all that hold us back. We are more open to change and challenges as we grow, because we don’t always see those challenges as fears any more.

We also grow in confidence and having confidence helps take away those fears.


18 May, 2011

4 thoughts on “When we hold back

  1. I think for me it is fear of the unknown.

    Once I am in a situation I can make a decision and move on. Change is always difficult but sometimes necessary to grow, otherwise we are stuck, which is not good.

    1. I think for most of us it will be the fear of the unknown. You’re not on your own Randy. Not knowing what lies ahead of us can make us stuck.

  2. I sometimes lack the motivation to continue a task.

    The last thing I threw myself into was school and I stayed with it until the school closed and dashed my dreams. I was so close to finishing and was sorely disappointed when I couldn’t.

    I’m more cautious with what I do now. I won’t allow my hopes to get up, so there won’t be a great disappointment. I still plan on continuing school some how at another school, but I will investigate in depth first.

    1. There are many reasons why we lack motivation and hold back in our lives.

      It all depends on where we’ve come from and what we deal with, not necessarily because something ends like your course. As you say you were so close to finishing, the school closed first before you had a chance to complete your course.

      At least you know you would have finished if you could have. I know it will come, just give it time.

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