How many of us start out with good intentions of changing or working through something then give up at the first hurdle?
Any decision that we make, that gets in the way of either accomplishing or achieving what we set out to do, is self-sabotage. When we do this, it’s normally because we lack discipline or motivation, the two key elements that allow us to carry out these tasks, however long those tasks take us.
I think to some extent we may all do this. Learned behaviour sets in and the pattern is formed, but either way we need to be committed to change. As a child not given much of a choice of how or what I did in life meant it would have been difficult to involve myself.
Any change seems daunting but I believe that is why some of us choose subconsciously not to change. It’s not a conscious decision. I remember being asked to go and spend time with my cousin for a few days and had travelled just a short distance when panic set in. I froze and couldn’t go any further.
We believe we can’t do these things, then make a list of excuses as to why we can’t. As a child, this is more commonplace. I believe as an adult there are ways to work to change all that hold us back. We are more open to change and challenges as we grow, because we don’t always see those challenges as fears any more.
We also grow in confidence and having confidence helps take away those fears.