How many people do you know who go through life whining, without actually doing anything to solve their problems?
If I have a problem, or I’m not happy about something I’ll try and fix it. Having been around people who continually whine most of my life, they tend to whine about everything, without so much as coming up for air.
And whining never stops. Even when I have tried to change the subject, another subject brings-up something else for them to whine about. Perhaps we need to focus on trying not to whine, in the same way we need to focus on refraining from other bad habits. Like everything else it’s a pattern, learned behaviour that needs unlearning and relearning again.
Whining is something we see. From an early age we copy what we see. If our parents’ whine, we’ll do the same. I liken whining to being around someone negative. Have you ever tried being in someone’s company when they’re being negative? It’s contagious.
I believe when the focus or attention, is about the person whining and not the initial problem, it makes it harder to solve the problem and achieve a positive outcome. What they don’t realise is, that when we have to listen to them, it’s horrible for us. People who whine don’t usually take an active role in solving their problems, they just actively whine their way through them.
So ,the next time you’re not happy about something, stand back and think about the problem. Focus, get your point across, mediate and move on. Soon you’ll begin to notice just how productive and successful you can be without having to whine your way through it.