I never made the no emotional support I received as a child an issue, because I was self-sufficient. I got by. I was lucky I knew how to do that. Of course, because I didn’t have the support, I know how important it is to have support.
Being a support doesn’t mean we must try and fix other people’s problems, we just need to be a good listener and have a caring manner. We also need to make sure we don’t judge, even if we don’t agree with what’s being said.
Support is fundamental in all relationships, but it does make it much harder when someone is dealing with a physical or emotional issue and the other person needs to then begin to understand and act as a support. I believe how we choose to support is the backbone to everything.
The tips below may also help:
- Take an interest but try not to criticise;
- Listen to hear not just to answer;
- Don’t make your opinion bigger than the person you’re trying to help;
- Be conciliatory even if you don’t agree;
- It’s not for you to decide what they should do;
- Body language is important. Be careful not to show how you feel even if you don’t agree;
- Give that person his or her own space so that they can make their own decisions.
Support is fundamental and the backbone to any relationship. I’m not sure relationships will survive without our ability to listen and to be a good support.
Whether it’s support for a friend or a child, support should always be given in a caring and nurturing way, preferably in a way that doesn’t compromise the relationship.