Unfortunately, I’ve been judged many times and have had no choice but to walk away from those friends. It’s important for us to accept people for who they are and stop with the judgments.
Why do we judge?
- We don’t agree with the other person, so we make a judgment;
- We don’t like the other person, so we try to make things difficult for them;
- We either feel insulted, rejected or worse accused by the other person;
- We never see the good in people, so tend to look for the worst in those people, when it’s us that we’re angry at;
- We’re having a bad day and just want that other person to feel the same as we feel;
- We’re jealous.
I believe we tend to condemn before we know the truth or facts about the other person and are quick to judge or form an opinion when we don’t know a person or his motives. We usually listen to what other people say and take sides, even if we don’t know the person they’re talking about.
When we judge others, it’s because we’re not happy. When we’re unhappy, we tend to want to make other people’s lives as unhappy as ours. If someone’s behaviour is at fault, it’s the behaviour we should be judging and not the person. It’s important to always distinguish between the two.