Unfortunately, many things that happen to us are a consequence of someone’s actions, which usually starts in childhood and leaves us less than able to cope emotionally with life.
So how do we stop it?
My first thought is to look at the past. Recognise our mind-set traits and work towards changing the way we think, through our unconscious thinking. Avoid situations that promote emotional reactions or patterns of how we react.
The thoughts we have about others are usually a symptom of how we feel about ourselves. I believe that blaming others, is the true reality of how we feel about ourselves, we just don’t see or get it.
Not only do we press our own self-destruct button, but we also press the self-destruct button on all our relationships. Blaming others just highlights our own inadequacies. There’s a saying: ‘once a victim always a victim,’ but I don’t think that’s altogether true.
We can choose to stay a victim, or we can empower ourselves and do something with our lives so that we change the pattern and mindset of how we’ve been taught to think for so many years. I think there comes a time for all of us when we’ve suffered enough.
We want to feel good about ourselves, we want to be able to form and keep relationships without driving those we love away. We need to stop seeing others as the problem and take stock, so that we get to see our issues and so that we can deal with those.
Lastly, I believe we must work on change and the way we feel and think about ourselves, without pressing our own self-destruct button and then choosing to look to others to blame.