I find it sad that many things that happen to us are a consequence of someone else’s actions, which usually starts in childhood and can leave us less than able to cope with our lives.
All is not lost. We can change those early patterns by first recognising our mind-set traits and working towards changing the way we think, through our unconscious thinking. Avoid situations that promote emotional reactions or patterns of how we react.
The thoughts we have about other significant people are usually a symptom of how we feel about ourselves. Although we look to blame others who are responsible for how we turn out, blaming others is the true reality of how we feel about ourselves, we just don’t see or get it.
Blaming others just highlights our own inadequacies and that’s when we become the victim. We can choose to stay a victim, or we can empower ourselves by learning to change the pattern and mind-set of how we’ve been taught to think.
We want to feel good about ourselves and keep relationships without driving those we love away. We need to stop seeing other people as the problem, look at our issues and deal with those. I’ve had to do it myself.
I believe we must work on change and the way we feel and think about ourselves, without pressing our own self-destruct button and then choosing to look to others to blame. We simply mustn’t blame.