I used to feel guilty because I felt I should have been stronger instead of conforming to how others wanted me to be, although I know I had little choice in the matter.
I thought it might be helpful for me to write from my own view point, why I feel it’s important for us not to conform to other people’s lives if it’s not right for us and why we should learn to follow our own path more.
It stands to reason that if we live by our own rules, we will live a more peaceful life with less stress in it. We will also be free to make our own decisions so that we live by our own values and life. Sadly, when we conform to fit into another person’s life, we live by the other person’s rules, not our own.
The following suggestions may act as a guide:
- Break away from letting others tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. If what they’re asking doesn’t fit into your own plans, make your own decision;
- Make friends with people who like you just the way you are. When we try to match up to other people, it usually means we’re trying too hard to find a level of acceptance. No one should have to find a level of acceptance, we should automatically fit in;
- Be comfortable around any changes you go on to make. Change helps you grow emotionally, physically and spiritually;
- For those of us who go on to struggle with changes, will already be struggling. It’s not something that happens because we choose to change.
Try not to care about what other people think. When you stop caring what other people think, you stop conforming and as long as we’re not rejecting other people’s rules because we’re doing it out of spite, no one should make us feel bad about following our own values.
When we choose to do our own thing for our own reasons that’s fine. It’s our life to do as we choose and please, as their life is to do as they choose and please.