We learn from our parents and society from an early age, how important it is for us to win, but I first believe we need to know what it is to lose, more than what it means to win.
Children sometimes go through phases where they won’t play unless they win, which can be brought about by their parents teaching them how important it is to win. I believe these attributes come from our parents.
If children win all the time, they will never learn know what it means to lose. We learn so much more about sportsmanship from losing than we do from winning. We learn about the value of losing when we examine our loss and try to understand why we didn’t win.
I believe we can be completely prepared, trained, focused and experienced and still not win. Losing is an inevitable part of life, we cannot be winners all the time. Over our lifetime we’ll probably lose more than we will win, so it’s important we know how to deal with losing.
I believe we’re all winners and need to recognise we are even if we lose. Just because we lose, that shouldn’t make us losers. If the average child in school finishes last in the egg and spoon race that’s okay. There may be various reasons unbeknown to us why that child didn’t win.
Finishing the challenge makes us winners. Trying to win becomes a continual challenge. Society should be embracing both in equal measure. There is too much emphasis placed on winning and not enough on losing. If more people came to lose instead of winning, they’d be classed as winners for losing.
It would also make winning sweeter. There is too much of a stigma behind losing and that needs to change. In my mind’s eye, we’re all winners whether we come in first or we come in last. I believe it’s our perceptions that need to change.