In my previous blog, I wrote about taking responsibility for our past so that we can move on and look to our future, but like many things in life, in reality it’s never that simple or easy to do.
I start this blog by outlining some of the things that should help us understand a little more about possible explanations and thoughts about the past and how we can change learned unhelpful bad patterns.
As we grow up, we condition ourselves to believe that we can’t enjoy our lives because of things that have happened to us, whether we are responsible for those or not. Without us consciously being aware, we condition our thoughts not to expect the best. We put barriers up, to protect ourselves from further hurt and disappointment, without realising that our actions will bring about more unhappiness.
Our lives will never be improved by fearful thinking. An obsession with the past will always bring predispositions to failure in the future. When we anticipate the worst we will make the worst happen. Sadly that’s a reality. The memories we hold, have no power to harm us, it’s the emotions that are associated with them that create resentment, anger and fear.
The mental stress we put ourselves through by holding on to bad memories and experiences are self-inflicted, which will serve to hurt us more. Those emotions are like a time bomb waiting to go off. We need to let them go and release them completely so that we can move on.
The way we think is the way we choose to think. If we choose to think happy thoughts, that’s what we will do. If we choose to think negative thoughts that also is what we will do.
We need to be aware that what is holding us back is what we have chosen to hold on to. We need to be equally aware that we are free to choose to let go of those thoughts, once we’ve dealt with them.