Worrying is contagious

Worrying is like negativity, it’s contagious. I choose not to worry, but when I am around people who constantly worry, I find it hard not to pick up on their worries, from something I was always clear and positive about.

Worry has that effect on us and as upbeat and as positive as we are, that changes once we’re in the company of people who make worrying an art form. Having grown up around family who constantly worry, it’s easy to see why I would choose not to worry. Not getting involved is one way to do it. The more we become embroiled in someone’s worry, the more we will take on that worry, as the worry becomes embedded in our subconscious.

It’s not always easy to be in on a conversation and ignore any concerns or worries being expressed. It’s human nature to want to give an opinion or to want to help in some way, but it’s always better to stay focused on you so that you don’t emotionally get involved. I have often found myself emotionally switching off for that reason.

Although worrying doesn’t seem harmful, worrying can be harmful, when it begins to interfere with how and what we think. When we lose the ability to think clearly that will affect our immune system and our health.  Worrying is a form of anxiety and frustration if we let it. Worrying causes other symptoms such as resentment and anger, all of which can cause more serious health implications.

I have seen first hand what happens when we continue to worry as a part of our lives.  My advice is wherever possible keep your health in tact and stop worrying.


18 Jun, 2012

10 thoughts on “Worrying is contagious

  1. I worry sometimes about seeing some people that have expressed negative feelings about the book. Sometimes this overshadows what I am doing which is a shame. Worrying can be natural but not necessary.

    If you worry your life away there will be nothing to enjoy.

    1. I can understand your worries if people have expressed negative feelings about your book, but everyone is entitled to an opinion. That is one person’s opinion, but not everyone will share that opinion.

      When we expose our work and allow people to comment on our work, we have to expect that we will get bad press. As long as you’re confident about your writing it shouldn’t matter whether you have bad press or not. Be confident in your abilities and you won’t care so much. That is my feeling.

      I agree with you that worrying has become very natural and given the current climate it has become the norm for many people. Your last paragraph is also very true Stuart, when we spend our time worrying about things, we spend less time enjoying the things we get enjoyment from.

  2. Unfortunately I worry a lot. It does tend to ruin my day and makes it very hard for me to stay positive.

    I agree that worrying is like a disease and I also agree that being around people who worry constantly, can make us edgy.

    If only it were that easy to stop worrying, think about nothing and just enjoy life. Great post Ilana!

    1. Thanks Anne. I made the decision a long time ago to move away from my negative friends and haven’t looked back. As hard as it is to do, I honestly believe we worry less when we are around people who are positive.

      I’ve done a lot of work on myself, but also believe everyone has the ability to worry less.

  3. I’ve spent the majority of my life always worrying about a lot of different things, which tends to take a lot of the enjoyment out of life. I’m trying very hard to not worry so much.

    It would be so great if I could move beyond the worry and just have a chance to enjoy living from day to day.

    1. I agree Randy. Worry takes too much enjoyment our of our lives.

      I hope each day you will have more opportunities to enjoy your life without worrying so much.

  4. I worry but not like I used to. I don’t leave my family to their own problems either.

    I’m here for them if they need me and always will be.

    1. I am pleased you don’t worry as much as you used to. That’s great Lisa.

      It’s also lovely that you’re there to help your family with their own worries, so long as your family’s worries don’t become your worries!

  5. I worry more now than I have ever done. I know it doesn’t do me any good and I’m trying not to worry so much.

    I’m lucky to have someone to talk me through it. 🙂

    1. I think we all go through worry phases depending on what life throws at us.

      It’s lovely that you have someone you can rely on that will talk you through your worries. Lucky you!

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