Wrong decisions

9 Feb

If someone asked my opinion about making big decisions, my advice would be to steer clear of the bigger decisions whilst you’re dealing with large amounts of stress, which I have been for 7 years now. It’s official… today I’ve been struggling with confidence issues. You know the thing, a decision you make that you seem happy with; then regret it once it’s made?  Then when you realise the mistake, you’re not quite sure how to correct it. Today I have to undo the mess made by a decision I made yesterday. I don’t blame myself; I blame my circumstances and all that I’ve had to deal with.

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  1. Lisa Cyr 09. Feb, 2013 at 11:07 am #

    Been there too. It’s a difficult situation to be in.

    Somewhere in the process of making the decision in the first place I can remember someone telling me that it won’t work out and I end up hearing, ‘I told you so.’ Hate it when that happens.

    I suck it up and make it right somehow. There are some things we can’t make right and just have to accept it as it is. Hind sight is 20/20 as the saying goes.

    • Ilana 09. Feb, 2013 at 3:18 pm #

      Thanks Lisa. I tend to ignore what others think, not because I’m being mean but from my own experience others will always have or form of an opinion one way or another on what we decide to do. It’s not always because what they say is wrong, but that it isn’t what we want for ourselves.

      In any event I believe we have to make our own mistakes, that’s how we learn. It can be somewhat infuriating when we get the ‘I told you so’ thrown at us. In any event it’s never helpful.

      There’s a lesson in there for all of us!

  2. Brad 09. Feb, 2013 at 2:01 pm #

    We’ve all done something similar. I’m sure with your formidable negotiating skills you will successfully sort this out.

    • Ilana 09. Feb, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

      Thank you.

  3. Randy Darling 09. Feb, 2013 at 2:43 pm #

    Everything you say here is true. Try to be calm and reason out when you make a major decision.

    There are a lot of things on your mind to deal with. Not a good time. Just try to wait till your mind is clear. People make better decisions when they have a clear head.

    • Ilana 09. Feb, 2013 at 3:22 pm #

      Ditto I agree with you Randy. A clear head definitely helps with making decisions.

  4. Maria Wilson 09. Feb, 2013 at 4:55 pm #

    The best thing you have done so far is to write about this. Writing down our thoughts usually help us solve a problem. If we could only do this every time it would be great. (I know I don’t always do this).

    We’ve all been there. I’m sorry you’ve been under stress for so long, many hugs are sent your way.

    • Ilana 09. Feb, 2013 at 5:23 pm #

      Thanks Maria. I find writing things out does help a lot. Your hug is greatly appreciated too.

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