8 thoughts on “A Gertrude Stein quote

  1. Absolutely ! We can spend all our lives being too careful and missing out on life itself, let alone stumbling over something we never saw coming.

    The trick is to achieve the right balance, something many of us strive for but seldom achieve.

    1. Thanks Tim. If I think long and hard about Gertrude Stein’s quote, there seems to be some merit to it. I can see her point.

      For me the key to this quote is being ‘occupied.’ When we try too hard at something, we will either stop ourselves from doing what we’re doing because we’re afraid of getting what we’re doing wrong, or we’ll stumble because we’re trying too hard to get it right.

      If we stood back and put our trust in our abilities to believe that we can do what we set out to do, without being ‘occupied,’ perhaps we’d get through what we were doing without stumbling at all.

  2. I agree with this quote and with Brad and Tim.

    I think we can be overly cautious at times and being that way we can miss out on some things in life, but on the other hand can we ever be cautious enough? With the world like it is today and it seems like it’s only getting worse, we have to be cautious.

    I used to be so cautious with my daughter when she was little and I can see where she may have missed out on some things. I was told by several people at that time that I was too careful with her.

    My parents were overly cautious with me and I did miss out on somethings. We should try to find a happy medium and stick to it.

    1. Thanks Lisa. Doing things in our personal space seems a world away from going out into the big wild world and one would be right to be cautious there, particularly as the world today isn’t the world we grew up in.

      When I was growing up, as you found Lisa our parents were over protective due to what we both had to deal with, but being over protective and cautious I believe are two different things. When we’re over protective we stop our children from doing something, but when we’re cautious we may put provisions in place, but still allow our children to do things.

      My father was too over-protective and I experienced nothing. It would have been helpful to me if he had have at least been cautious, that way I may have got to experience something.

  3. I had that same problem when my son was little. I’d be so preoccupied with him not getting hurt that I would ruin his fun. I failed to be in the moment and enjoying watching him play.

    Guess I was a bit over protective LOL! Later I learned to relax a bit and let him have his fun.

    1. I quite understand. It’s about learning and finding a balance with our kids and that’s not easy.

      As you’ve explained so eloquently in your last paragraph you ‘learned to relax a bit.’ Often that’s all it needs, but speaking from experience being a parent is a learning curve. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

      Things tend to come full circle anyway. Your son will understand your actions more when he becomes a parent. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

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