The problem with worry

15 Mar

Something inspirational:

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, it empties today of its strength.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

8 Responses to “The problem with worry”

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  1. Lisa Cyr 15. Mar, 2014 at 9:36 am #

    I totally agree with this. Worrying is a killer. It causes many health problems like high blood pressure, gastrointestinal problems and nerve problems and depression. I watched my fathers health decline for many years because he worried all the time. His complexion stayed ruddy and his blood pressure stayed up because he worried all the time.

    I have inherited his worrying unfortunately, but I’ve gotten better by just trying to live for the day and not worrying about tomorrow and worrying about the past is useless, because what is done is done and we can’t go back and change it.

    Most of the time we worry about things that will never happen. What is the use in that? I think we also can make things happen by worrying and that isn’t good. Live for today and forget the past. The future will take care of itself.

    • Ilana 15. Mar, 2014 at 11:20 am #

      Thanks Lisa. Yes I agree with your thoughts around illness and worry and as you say we cannot do anything about our past, so there’s no point to worrying about it.

      I also believe the less we worry, the stronger we will be. Unfortunately worry zaps our energy and strength and in the longer term as you suggest can cause illness.

      I love this quote. The lovely thing about quotes is they leave an impression on us, whilst giving us something to think about and change.

  2. Randy Michaud 15. Mar, 2014 at 11:55 am #

    I’ve spent the majority of my life worrying about so many things that I couldn’t enjoy the day I was in.

    My parents were extreme worriers so it’s not too hard to figure out that I would end up having this habit too. It has caused me to either feel totally paralysed, unable to make a decision, or making very bad choices because I didn’t know what was the right thing to do.

    I know realistically that I need to learn how to stop worrying quite so much. I’ve given up on so much in my life because I was worrying about what other people would think instead of doing what would be right for me.

    Stress for me is a very bad thing since I actually end up getting physically ill when I worry too much. If I could learn how to let go of the past I know my life would be so much better for it!

    • Ilana 15. Mar, 2014 at 5:36 pm #

      Thanks Randy. Yes we tend to follow in our parents’ footsteps. It’s easy for a child to pick up on a parent’s worry. We learn through our parents. I think it’s also in the jeans.

      Like you, I used to worry what other people thought, but came to realise when I was in my thirties, I was making myself more miserable. Unfortunately stress and worry are the biggest reasons why we get ill.

      Holding on to the past makes us worry more. The past is something we should all learn to let go of.

  3. Tim 17. Mar, 2014 at 12:12 am #

    I agree with Lisa. The human body reacts to stimuli and too much worrying will kill you.

    I tend to worry about things until I blow my worry completely out of proportion, and then it never happens anyway.

    • Ilana 17. Mar, 2014 at 6:16 am #

      I also agree with Lisa. Thanks Tim.

      What you’re describing here, I would do as a child but eventually learned to grow out of it. Every now again if I’m dealing with a lot and I can’t resolve a problem that really worries me, that problem does tend to get bigger in my head.

      As long as we don’t talk ourselves into that worry, I believe that worry should dissipate without too much of a problem.

  4. Brad 17. Mar, 2014 at 3:14 pm #

    Great quote and some really good replies. I have to say I agree pretty much with everything said.

    I’m certainly guilty of worrying. I know it doesn’t change anything and is almost always negative. but it is very difficult to change that behaviour and to channel it into positivity.

    • Ilana 17. Mar, 2014 at 3:27 pm #

      Yes once we go down the road of thinking negative thoughts through worry, it’s very difficult to turn that around.

      I usually let go of the things I can’t control and deal with the things I can so they don’t turn in to a concern or worry, but I do get caught out myself every now and again, particularly if I hear bad news or I have too many things to deal with.

      I’m positive by nature and will always look for the positive in everything.

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