Having and dealing with a disability takes a different kind of normal from us, not something others cope with.
It’s obviously easier for those with the disability to function with what they deal with because they’re the ones dealing with the disability. They adjust, they get on with it, but it can make any type of normal difficult, particularly for the people they share their lives with.
The problem with disability, however large or small, is that the social model of how that person tries to deal with their disability may be overlooked by society and family, potentially by anyone that person is in contact with. Sadly, not everyone who deals with a disability is included.
The social model is important, because it allows the person with the disability to live their lives with others’ understanding their needs, why they may present a certain way and what they may deal with physically. Social barriers tend to be the main cause of problems for people with disabilities.
These barriers tend to include other people’s prejudices based on physical and emotional attitudes mainly. An important principle of the social model is that the person with the disability is the expert on their requirements and this should be respected, regardless of whether their disability is obvious or not.
Sadly, and it’s a sad indictment of society today, that most people aren’t willing to adopt the social model so they adjust around those who live with a disability. Whether a disability is visible or not is immaterial, in society and around the social model, it’s not for others to comment or judge.
Those living with a disability that isn’t obvious or is not understood by others, may come to struggle without other people understanding. Sadly, not everyone knows how to deal with someone with a disability and is often the reason why exclusion often occurs.