Adapt & change

19 Jun 2017

Adapt and change or stagnate and get left behind. Sadly, this is how it works. The capacity to adapt comes through our ability to deal with the mental, emotional and physical challenges.

How we manage to incorporate a new mind set and our subsequent behaviour, determines how successful our new mind-set and behaviour pattern will be. The key implications of change are necessary if we are to move on with our lives.

We adjust to change by forming new expectations that eventually lead us to success, under new circumstances. We must start by addressing and working out what’s happening and learning to respond to those things. We must learn to deal with our emotions sufficiently, but to do that we must consciously tap into our emotions.

Sadly, that’s now how we roll. Invariably, we are continually linked to our unconscious thinking and therefore don’t always think about our conscious thoughts of how we feel at any given time. We tend to rely on the old stories that play out in our unconscious thinking as we go about our daily loves.

We must involve our mental, emotional and physical states if we are to adapt. We must also learn to absorb change beyond that if we are to continue to adapt and change.

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  1. Tim 19. Jun, 2017 at 12:41 pm #

    I tend to decline some social networks at my age, where change is both good and bad. But as long as change doesn’t replace my happiness, I’m all for it.

    • Ilana 19. Jun, 2017 at 2:52 pm #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, I’ve been working on the idea of change since I was a little girl, so the concept of change was nothing new to me. But change is important if we are to experience life.

      We cannot new things without working on change. But I think you’re right, change must never change happiness and if it does, it’s time to change again.

  2. Randy 19. Jun, 2017 at 2:30 pm #

    Well, I was forced to do just that continuously as a child without actually knowing how to do it. We were pretty much thrown to the wolves and expected to survive, which is kind of difficult when nobody shows you how to do it.

    We had to learn things like street smarts the hard way. It’s pretty amazing that all of us survived, but I can’t say without a scratch because we have all had our demons to battle. I lost the fight with mine a few times and it was a hell that I don’t care to repeat, which is why I’m working so hard on dealing with change now.

    There is a very large part of me that really doesn’t like change but I know it is actually a normal thing that people do deal with every day.

    This also explains certain things, like as to why I would stay in such an unhealthy relationship for me, seeing as it’s a matter of having to change. My thoughts are that it’s easier to deal with the devil that you already know, rather than one you don’t.

    The whole risk-reward factor isn’t something I like to deal with, since I haven’t ever had a whole lot of luck in that area. The reality is that I’m not used to the idea that I can make choices that would make me happy rather than always focusing on what is best for everyone else.

    I was brainwashed as a child, to be such a people pleaser that I didn’t know any different, but I’m definitely not a child anymore. Every ache and pain in places that I didn’t know, I had remind me of that fact.

    What it comes down to, is the fact that I can adapt and change in a healthy way and to do what’s right for me for the first time in my life. It may mean having to move from a place where I have lived for the longest time in my life, but that may be what it takes, even as much as I don’t want to.

    I just don’t deal very well with change, but there is also the reality that I do have the ability to make choices, rather than being forced to take whatever I had to like when I was a kid. I know that there are people who actually don’t feel guilty for living their own lives, which is such a foreign concept for me.

    I know I can do the adapt and change thing, but I just have to try to remember that it is okay for me to do what I want to do for a change.

    • Ilana 19. Jun, 2017 at 3:20 pm #

      Thanks Randy. Yes, it is absolutely okay for you to ‘adapt and change.’ The more we do it, the more we get used to doing it.

      And if it’s right for us, it doesn’t necessarily have to be right for everyone else. Like you, I learned the hard way and to my cost. But if the time I had to go through back then brought me to this place then it’s something that in the end turned out to be worthwhile.

      There is no doubt in my mind that without my experiences, I would never be writing and running The CP Diary now. All my experiences have brought me to this place.

      It’s your time to make your own choices, regardless of others’ decisions.

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