It’s easy for animosity to grow against the people who could and should have supported us, so that our lives are made easier, but didn’t. No one starts off feeling animosity without just cause. It usually comes in on the back of an injustice that fails to be corrected.
Our feelings of animosity are usually down to another person’s inability to see how they’ve behaved towards us, but for us to handle it, we must first detach our emotions. What they’ve done to us, isn’t about us, it’s about them and what they have failed to do.
When we take out a reaction, we become more focused on writing a wrong, without bringing anger into the equation. Unfortunately though, if not dealt with quickly, animosity can turn into anger, which distances people further, particularly when the anger becomes more deep routed.
Animosity can also turn into bitterness, resentment, hatred and self-loathing and will slowly begin to affect our view of the world as that view slowly becomes distorted. With animosity we will fail to succeed, move on and can never have peace.
When we learn to take any reaction out of the equation, we will always have the opportunity to work through things including animosity and anger.