The emotional baggage we carry from our childhood into our relationships is the main reason why relationships often fail. Emotional baggage are just two words that have masses of implications and is the main reason why relationships fail, particularly when we ignore the fact that we carry baggage.
As we fail to acknowledge we even have baggage, relationships will always continue to fail. I don’t believe any of us come through our childhood completely unscathed, but whereas some of us will be at least willing to accept that we have baggage, others won’t even recognise they have any. It’s always someone else’s problem until we recognise it as our own.
In my own case, my past has allowed me and continues to allow me to make better choices as I continue to move forward with my life. Without some of those past bitter experiences, I wouldn’t understand my life now. I have also learned that the most important part of any emotional baggage is not the baggage itself, but how we handle the baggage.
How we relate to the issue very much becomes the issue, particularly if we’re not dealing with the issue well. If we deal with something in an over-reactive and unreasonable manner it stands to reason that becomes the issue, not the issue itself.
We can be forgiven for feeling badly about something we deal with, but we cannot be easily forgiven for how we work through our issues, particularly if other people are on the receiving end of those issues.
When we deal with our baggage, we’ll leave very little room for arguments, disagreements, crossed words. All these stem from our baggage.