Being happy with oneself

When we’re happy with ourselves, we won’t be in the habit of thinking we’d like to be someone else, but how many of us can say that we haven’t thought those thoughts at some point in our lives?

We seem to think that the people we would like to be, have their lives pretty much wrapped up. We tend to focus on their qualities rather than our own qualities and want to be like them. From the outset, their lives seem to fit together perfectly. Inwardly though, I am sure they have their own stories to tell.

My own thought is that we should only focus on our own qualities. Being happy should be something we think and act on daily.

These are usually my own techniques:

  • Never look at the past as being something negative. Look at the past as being something you can learn and grow from;
  • Stop trying to please others, if pleasing others doesn’t please you;
  • Being around people who intimidate you can make you feel worse about yourself. Choose to be around positive people who elevate you and make you feel good about yourself;
  • Concentrate on finding ways to take control of how you feel so that you take away wanting to be someone else;
  • Don’t worry about what others think. Accepting yourself is easier when you ignore other people’s opinions.

I’ve not always had the confidence, but I know that I’ve never wanted to be someone else. Until now I’ve always been happy to be me; even with Cerebral Palsy.

I think that what I am dealing with in my life right now has somehow brought me to a different thinking about myself. It’s easy to want someone else’s life if it means we don’t have to deal with everything we deal with.

We must continue to put a more positive slant on life and our qualities; for which we will probably have many. Don’t look to question yourself on those.


5 May, 2011

4 thoughts on “Being happy with oneself

  1. I used to really care about what others had that I didn’t and that they had their lives together and I didn’t, but now it doesn’t matter to me that others seem to have it all.

    I’m working on my life now and couldn’t care less if so-and-so has more than me or has it together. I do care about others though but I don’t covet what they have.

    1. I think we tend to be more drawn in to wanting to be like someone else, when we’re not happy with who we are. Usually once we’re through whatever we have to deal with, we become okay with ourselves again.

      As you say working on your life Lisa allows you to be comfortable with yourself without feeling the need to look over at what others have. Building self-esteem and confidence is key.

  2. You make some really good points in this post. I guess it’s all about learning to put oneself first and at times that isn’t easy.

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