If the answers to where do you fit in, or how do you see the world, or how do you see your relationships and what about certain outcomes, how do you see those? If your answers to those are negative, then you’re pessimistic.
Pessimism can spill over into anyone’s lives, at any point. Being pessimistic is something learned. Research also shows there can be a genetic disposition there. The people who are optimistic, however, deal with their problems and setbacks in an orderly fashion, without any fuss, and see those as challenges without seeing problems as failings of themselves.
Our earlier life experiences often open the floodgates to how we cope with our lives now and where we feel we have no control because of other people and past events. Other people with similar stories to tell, may see their lives in a completely different light, by not allowing their past experiences to interfere with their lives in the moment.
In any event, whether pessimism is learned, innate or acquired, it stops us moving forward with our lives and serves us poorly. It can also seriously compromise our health. Pessimism shows itself as negativity. People who are pessimistic are more likely to struggle and will be more prone to setbacks than those who are optimistic.
Pessimists criticise themselves for their setbacks and see their bad luck as a sign they’ve failed, or are simply not worthy of themselves or their success. It’s not something we easily see in ourselves.