Boosting self-esteem

Like low self-esteem there are many facets to self-esteem. When we are children, the reactions from our parents shape our sense of self-worth, whether those reactions are positive or not.

As children, our brains are like sponges, absorbing as much information as we can. The messages we get eventually turn into self-statements. Our beliefs, attitudes and thoughts become ingrained and become part of us that aren’t always accurate, but are accepted by us as true facts, because of what we have come to know.

Negative thoughts become stumbling blocks, stopping us from moving on with our lives. But there are things that we can do to boost our self-esteem, some of which are listed below:

Choose an interest or hobby

When we do something positive like take up an interest or hobby, our self-worth changes as we begin to work on new experiences. We also get to meet new friends.

Accept a compliment

Instead of dismissing a compliment from someone, accept the compliment by a way of a thank you.

Avoid labels

This is very common but doesn’t have to be. Avoid pulling yourself down by saying things like you’re stupid, lazy, can’t, should and never and instead introduce words that renew your confidence like can, shall and I will.

Make self-esteem unconditional

Embrace yourself unconditionally by facilitating a more compassionate attitude. Take away thoughts like “I’ll like myself better when” and replace it with thoughts like, ‘I like myself now.”

Write thoughts down on paper

What we write down can become a self-help tool and is the first step to noting our behaviour, with a view to working on those all- important changes. The changes we incorporate into our life should be small, but significant ones that happen over a longer period.

There will be lots of days where we feel we aren’t achieving anything, but each significant step means we become mentally stronger and is a day nearer to a goal.

It’s important we stop tormenting ourselves over the things we think we’ve failed at and instead, start working on ourselves to help boost our self-esteem. I believe that it’s not that we’ve failed, those things were never meant for us.


10 Sep, 2010

9 thoughts on “Boosting self-esteem

  1. Yeah, my self-esteem used to be pretty bad. I would get the “you can’t do that,” thing from my mother and I was lower than my sister. Plus I would get picked on in school by different kids, so I’ve always had low self-esteem. I think my being in dance school and several other things when I was a teen helped out a little, but mostly when I became a nurse helped me mostly, I had purpose and that was to help others.

    1. Absolutely Lisa, but although you are helping others, you still need to work on your self-esteem, because away from your job you have to be able to live with ‘you’ and that is always hard if you’re not feeling it.

  2. I find if I avoid any type of labeling or statement of limitations from others, it allows me to define myself thereby boosting my self esteem

    1. Brian you are absolutely right because you allow yourself to pull free of what other people think about you. That will as you correctly say allow you to define who you are, which in effect will boost your self-esteem.

  3. So glad that you are boosting your self-esteem. I try and do this every once in a while when I get a compliment and keep it at the forefront of my mind. A pick me up for a gloomy day or when I am feeling sad.

    1. Me too Maria… so glad you try to boost your self-esteem. Not always easy to do when life hands out so much. Glad we touched base today – loved it.

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