Compatibility doesn’t have to be with a partner or spouse, it could be with someone we hang out with such as a girlfriend, boyfriend; anyone we share a friendship or relationship with.
Is compatibility something we stop to think about or analyse?
Compatibility isn’t something we think about on a conscious level because if we did, we’d change our relationships. We come into relationships with baggage and baggage tends to interfere with relationships. Making decisions will always bring new attitudes, which may not always be compatible with the person we’re with.
What about material possessions and money? Do material possessions matter? Many relationships don’t work because of different attitudes to possessions or money. We also have different attitudes on raising children. Our philosophical attitudes tend to come from education and how we believe the world works.
What works and what is right for what we want, isn’t necessarily right for that of our partners. What about optimism? Is your cup half empty? Are you open to change? Do you accept your partner’s point of view, or do you always have to be right? Does your partner fall into line?
It’s okay to be individual because that’s how we make it in the world. It’s okay to have different values, but it’s more important that we accept and support those we’re with, because we want to be with that person, not stand in judgment, because we can’t agree.
I think that once we manage to achieve common ground and we let the relationship grow, we will have more compatibility. Religion, background, parentage and status shouldn’t come into it either.