Compatibility doesn’t have to be with a partner or spouse, it could be someone we hang out with, a girlfriend, boyfriend, anyone we share a friendship or relationship with.
Is compatibility something we stop to think about or analyse?
I believe we don’t always on a conscious level and if we do, we don’t stop to think about it. The problem for most of us, personal goals are not always evident earlier on in our lives and those goals may get in the way.
The problem is that for most of us, personal goals are not always evident earlier on in our lives. By the time some of us reach the age of 25, we may have some idea of which way we want to go. Some may want to further their career, others may be happy to relax a little, having achieved some of their goals before that age.
We also come into our relationships with baggage and baggage tends to interfere with relationships. Making decisions will always bring new attitudes, which may not always be compatible with the person we’re with. What about material possessions and money? Do material possessions matter? Many relationships don’t work because of different attitudes to possessions or money. We also have different attitudes on raising children.
Our philosophical attitudes tend to come from education and how we believe the world works. What works and what is right for what we want, isn’t necessarily right for that of our partner. What about optimism? Is your cup half empty? Are you open to change? Do you accept your partner’s point of view, or do you always have to be right? Does your partner fall into line?
It’s okay to be individual that’s how we make it in the world. It’s okay to have different values, but it’s more important that we accept, support and love those we’re with because we want to be with them, not stand in judgment, because we can’t agree.
I think that once we manage to achieve common ground and let the relationship grow, we will have more compatibility. Religion, background, parentage and status shouldn’t come into it.