Control can be very much part of our lives if we let it. Whether it’s from a family member, or a friend, it’s important to our emotional and physical health not to be controlled.
There is often someone in our lives who outwardly means well but often have a controlling side to them that we don’t always equate or tap into, or we turn a blind eye because it’s easier. It seems less complicated that way.
So how do you know when someone is controlling you? Being controlled means we lose our individuality and brought about by someone with a need to control. Another characteristic of controlling behaviour is heightened sensitivity. That person may become sensitive at something you say that someone else would see as constructive and yet they see it as a criticism.
They may also be jealous of other people’s relationships, particularly if it means that person spending quality time with someone else, or is paying attention to someone else. Control has a lot to do with our backgrounds. People who don’t manage to cope with their lives become controlling as a means of taking control of their own lives for however long they can.
There are also people who care, who don’t always show traits of excessive abnormal behaviour, but may be insecure having had very little input from their own childhood and although their behaviour is controlling, it’s usually done in good grace, but can still be harmful.
Any type of control is harmful to us emotionally and unless the cycle is broken, it’s very easy to replicate. It’s fine to be protective of our children, in many respects we need to be given the world, but children need room to grow, to be able to make their own decisions and as parents that’s what we need to allow them to do.
I am sure we all know one person in our life that is well intentioned but they’re controlling. Perhaps, we must take control and get that changed. It’s the only way we will find peace.