Correcting our mistakes

22 Oct 2016

Through a lack of cooperation and communication, the wrong mediation, may result in a falling out. Cooperation and communication are both tools that if managed correctly can bring about positive results.

Perhaps, therefore we need to think about how we could do things better or work to put right what we’ve done wrong. Mistakes happen. Things go wrong that’s life, but how we correct our mistakes is the difference between patching things up and walking away.

If the shoe were on the other foot, others would be looking to us to put things right, therefore we must do the same for others. Looking at the bigger picture of course, allows us to understand why what happened, happened, regardless of who is at fault. It’s not about who’s at fault, it’s about being honest and correcting our mistake.

Whatever the problem, through mediation an understanding can always be reached, but we’ve got to want to put things right. It’s sad when we don’t and instead choose to walk away.

Whatever the issue, our personal lives should never interfere with doing what’s right. We should always want to do what’s right.

6 Responses to “Correcting our mistakes”

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  1. Brad 22. Oct, 2016 at 8:52 pm #

    We have to be honest about our mistakes and admit them, address them and move on.

    In doing so we are being honest to ourselves and others and understanding and learning from our mistakes; that way we’re also unlikely to fall out in the process.

    • Ilana 22. Oct, 2016 at 8:57 pm #

      Thanks, yes I agree. Your response says it all. I’ve nothing more that I feel I need to add.

  2. Randy 23. Oct, 2016 at 8:46 pm #

    It would have been nice to have had that explained to us as children, since all I saw was my parents running away from their mistakes. We were made to feel like we were mistakes too, so they spent a lot of time running away from us too.

    I didn’t know that it was okay to make mistakes, since that only makes us human. My biggest downfall has been torturing myself for mistakes I made in the past that cannot be changed.

    I have spent most of my life hating myself for a lot of mistakes that weren’t even mine. I just have to try to remember what the things are that I can’t change and be able to move on!

    • Ilana 23. Oct, 2016 at 10:37 pm #

      It’s easy to carry guilt Randy for other people’s mistakes. I’ve also done it myself to the point of it making me feel ill, the more I thought about it.

      It’s never easy removing learned pattern behaviours, but it’s important if we are to change our own lives. On the back of all the issues with your parents, it’s easy to see why you’re torturing yourself over your own mistakes.

      I wonder how much of your mistakes you went on to make were actually part of your parents scenario. I would think that if you had have been given the right support and guidance as a child, you would have made better choices.

      Try not to be too hard on yourself for your earlier mistakes, but you’re in control now.

  3. Tim 24. Oct, 2016 at 10:04 pm #

    I’d like to offer some people a seat and tell them about the mistakes I’ve made; mistakes that has paid me with knowledge for the rest of my life.

    The minute I try to correct my mistakes, another mistake is made.

    • Ilana 25. Oct, 2016 at 6:14 am #

      Thanks Tim. Yes, it’s not always easy to understand why we make mistakes and that’s possibly the reason we go on to make more mistakes.

      I do think though that with time and experience, we learn a different more mature way to think and that can stop us from making mistakes. I personally don’t see mistakes as problems. I see mistakes as lessons learned.

      Mistakes are really a good way we learn.

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