Having a Diploma in Stress Management gives me more understanding of how stress works. Taking stress away helps us deal with the issues we have to deal with. Taking stress away also allows us to focus on staying positive so that we make better life choices, particularly where our health is concerned.
There are ways to deal with it. Not being afraid to say ‘no’ to unreasonable demands from family or friends is the key, particularly if we feel their demands will create more stress for us. Questions like do you see the demand or request they are asking as being fair? Would you see it as being fair if the demand they are asking of you was placed on someone else?
Always say ‘no’ if that is your intention, but clearly give your reasons rather than giving a list of excuses. You are merely refusing the request and not the person. Maybe a compromise can be reached by you offering an alternative. If the time isn’t right but the request is, an explanation will help the other person understand just why it can’t be done when they would like.
Look at the issues that are causing you to be stressed. To manage stress, look at the people you have around you in your life and rather than wait for the stress to pass, try to deal with the stress when you experience it, rather than the benefit of hindsight.
Maybe manage the issues that are causing unnecessary stress. Plan new and positive experiences, so that you focus on what you will gain, rather than what is stressful. Be honest with yourself so that you understand what you’re finding stressful, even if someone else might see it as trivial.
It would not be for someone else to pass judgment on you.