How do we go on to develop emotional detachment? Because without incorporating emotional boundaries between the people we have come to rely on, people will start to take advantage.
It may not be something they wittingly do, but since relationships aren’t all equal, that’s usually how it goes. We must all recognise the need be healthy. But to do that we must emotionally detach.
It’s not up to us to fix, heal or change others, but we do need to accept that people from time to time may use toxic behaviour towards us. If that is the case, then we must emotionally detach and find a way to do it.
We also need to do it without carrying the burden of separation or guilt. Boundaries then need to be implemented so that we can start to make our own decisions away from the people we have detached from. We need to minimise the emotional impact other people have had on us.
It may be that once we take control, we won’t feel the need to attach any more. We tend to attach ourselves to others as compensation, when we have little to no confidence in ourselves, or we fail to believe in our abilities, or ourselves.