Emotions

In our lifetime, our emotions will either protect us or hurt us. But what we all have in common are the emotional ties that bind us together, it doesn’t matter what we deal with.

We must believe in being positive so that we can move away from just existing in our lives. We will never make any positive contributions when we’re being negative. Living with negativity means we’ll continue to live a negative life, perhaps live behind a facade, then blame ourselves for all that we fail to achieve and may even carry guilt.

In my own case I wanted others to take the blame for not helping me with my disability. I wanted others to listen, I wanted a voice. I was frustrated and I was angry. When I wasn’t happy, I was being quiet and when I wasn’t being all those things, deep down I was the most kind and caring person and those caring qualities are still with me today. They’re on the site.

It’s massively important we learn to express ourselves. Talk about how we feel. I believe talking about things that matter, help us keep the mind safe. It is the most powerful tool we have. That said our emotions need to go somewhere. If they are not being expressed they are going inside. By ignoring our emotions, they interfere with the immune system and will contribute to illness long term.

The word disease is made up of two words dis-ease. That is why it’s so important to be at ease with ourselves. Let’s have a voice and use it.


13 Jun, 2010

6 thoughts on “Emotions

  1. I think this blog describes me to a tee, except I didn’t express all of those negative emotions and instead internalized and have kept them pent up inside of me.

    I am coming to believe if I resolve these internalized issues my life will have more balance and I will feel more in control of my life. I still have my walls up for protection with the exception of my wife Maria. With her I feel so safe as to be able to tell her everything and anything and this is helping me to see that my perceptions of things are not necessarily, facts they are merely my minds perceptions.

    Referring to being paranoid and not trusting therapists and doctors, I need to let myself trust them in order to get well since I am starting a program with new therapists and a doctor tomorrow. Well that’s enough for me.

    Thank you Ilana.

  2. Brian, I think your walls for your protection will be up for a little while to come, until you feel comfortable enough to let the right people into your life. Unfortunately as children, we put all our beliefs into the people we have around us who we believe we can trust and who should be there for us. The world should be like that but the world isn’t like that.

    In time you will learn who is good for you and who isn’t, like a first impression you will quickly work it out. You are on the right track though, let your therapists work with you now so that you can work on your past. Good luck.

  3. I have in the past also put up walls to protect myself after I have been hurt by someone or abandon. I put up a giant wall after my mother and best friend died and am just now coming out the other side. As a friend of mine said to my father 6 months after my mother passed away neither one of you have dealt with June’s Death. (my mother) It was very true. I was trying to be strong for my father and I felt I was not allowed to grieve properly at the time.

    In a lot of ways I have turned into my mother to deal with how my father is. I had no choice. In order to have calm and peace in the house I had to do it. Otherwise all we would do is fight. I did not want that. Neither would my mother.

    1. Your story Randy is the same as many others I am sure. It is very similar to my own story. When one parent dies, we somehow become a substitute parents for the parent we lose, not out of choice, unless the remaining parent is self sufficient and is happy to go it alone with his/her life without the children having to get involved on that level.

      I know your mother probably wouldn’t want you to fight with your father, but she isn’t the one who has been left to fight his battles. Your choices as to how you deal with your father should be your own choices now. Living your life through your mother’s eyes and being a substitute mother is not the way. I hope your mother would understand that enough to allow you to make your own choices for the way you want your life to go now.

  4. You are so right, if you do not get your feelings out they dwell inside and make you ill. That is why now I just let things out one way or another. I will confront my problems and discuss them with my significant other. Thanks for reminding me that I need to do that…

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