We all have different ways of coping and dealing with our emotions. These emotions are brought about through our DNA and the nervous system. We are also conditioned through cultural experiences and our upbringing, both play a pivotal part.
For example, people who live in Mediterranean countries express themselves openly over losing a loved one, whereas people from Northern European countries may be encouraged or expected to grieve by themselves, away from the public gaze so as not to offend or cause others to feel uncomfortable.
But negative and positive expressions must play their part in today’s world. All emotions must be expressed, because not to will bring disharmony into the equation, as life dictates. We need to.
It is the most natural thing in the world to feel anger, to feel anxious, to feel sadness, as it is to feel joy, excitement and contentment. Learning to express and use expression should be natural, but it isn’t and needs to be. Our emotions will always remain on an unconscious level, until such a time they surface and may eventually make us ill.
Have you ever found that once you’re caught in one feeling or mood, your experiences tend to reflect those same feelings? The way we view the world has implications for our health. Research has shown that those of us who hold on to problems, who withdraw, who blame themselves and carrying guilt, who very rarely cry or get angry, may be more prone to “immune-related disorders.”
Blaming others, doesn’t deal with the root cause of why we feel anger and can start to compromise our health in the longer term. We point the finger at others without taking control for ourselves.
For us to stay well we must take back control of our emotions and stay in control of them.