It’s not surprising that many children will fail to make decisions for themselves, particularly when parents continue to make decisions for them. We learn and grasp the concept of making decisions for ourselves when we are encouraged and supported through the process.
It sounds easier than it is, but many of us we will spend a large proportion of our time relying on others to help us make that decision. Any uncertainty about a decision is our way of avoiding a choice we have to make, like giving up something in the form of moving on and growing up.
Any decision that is based on changing our life are hard, because both are life changing and it’s the life-changing scenario we struggle with more than the decision. We may also have to endure the more painful loss when we go with one decision and not the other for us to move forward with our lives.
Any choice that takes us away from the norm, from what we know and are comfortable with can also add to indecisive tendencies on our part around making new decisions. Of course, us not making decisions isn’t without its price either. Not making decisions can have its consequences as well, because as time moves on and we resist the temptation to make decisions, we close the door on future possibilities.
As with everything though, making decisions isn’t easy. Learning to make decisions takes time and effort and experience. Although some of us will avoid making decisions, to make decisions effectively and for us to feel comfortable with the decisions we go on to make, we need to start making decisions when we’re children. It needs to be encouraged.
That doesn’t mean we can’t make decisions as adults. We can, anyone can, but unfortunately making decisions become harder, the older we get.