Until my mid-thirties I struggled enormously with the things I couldn’t change. Through our own struggles and through our children’s success, there will always be those gentle reminders that serve to reinforce our own lack of success. Through our vision for our children, those reminders will stir up negative thoughts on what we didn’t go on to achieve.
So how do we move on so that we don’t go back to negative thoughts about our own accomplishments? I believe to do that we must learn and come to understand why things didn’t happen for us in our own lives, so that we’re not drawing comparisons with our children.
Perhaps we must learn to recognise the things we can change, so that we go about making those changes, whilst we let go of the things we know we can’t that we get to re-write history, not someone else’s history. It’s that simple.
We don’t get to change other people or their roles in what we have failed to achieve, but we do get to change our lives so that we have our own and new experiences to draw on, whilst we leave our children to get on with their lives with their own accomplishments.