How do we improve on confidence? How do we turn our lives around from having no confidence to having some confidence? Having struggled with little confidence over the years, these are my top tips and they work for me.
Learn to be kind and generous: because when you’re kind and generous, you not only improve how you see yourself, but you learn to treat others as you would want them to treat you. This leads to us becoming happier.
Improve your self-image to how you want others to see you: when you improve your self-image by taking care of yourself, you will feel good about yourself. When you feel good, you will begin to believe in yourself. When you begin to believe you can do the things you’ve always thought you can’t, your confidence will start to increase.
Increasing your competence increases your confidence: but you have to have a go. Without having a go or at least try things, you will never have confidence or feel we’re competent enough. It’s the act of trying that increases your competence. It can be a vicious circle, but you must get past that if you are to succeed and you can.
Know and live by your principles: what are the principles upon which your life is built? The majority of us will go through our lives without any understanding of what our moral compass is and what it means. Without knowing, our life will continue to be directionless. My moral compass is based on the Golden Rule, ethical code and morality that lead me to live a more spiritual life.
Simplify your life: to include the people who you know are holding you back. Holding on to people who don’t have your back will pull you back even further. Also, learn not to look over your shoulder at what others have or are doing and try not to criticise other people. The more you criticise others, the more negativity you’ll have to deal with, the less confidence you’ll have.
Learn to go with the flow: accept what you can’t change and change what you can. Walk tall and continue to move forward.
Finally, although confidence grows and comes with maturity, as we face daily issues, it’s easy for the confidence we have to get knocked. When we believe in ourselves that’s when we will begin to walk tall, live with and increase our confidence.