Lessons learned

We learn that our most valuable lessons come through our thoughts, our emotions, our perceptions and our words.

We come to learn that our emotions determine a particular experience and outcome, whether that outcome turns out to be right or wrong. That we have control, that we learn and grow as we continue to go.

We learn that we hurt so that we grow; we fail so that we can know success; we lose so that we can learn how to win and that we grow though some of our toughest challenges. We also learn that where we think we are lost, we find ourselves and that our perceptions define an outcome. If the outcome turns out to be wrong, perhaps that’s what we must work on.

We also learn that we are the masters of our own destiny; that we get to change our destiny. That where we think there is no hope, we have hope and where we are down, we can bring ourselves back up again.


8 Mar, 2016

6 thoughts on “Lessons learned

  1. It reminds of something I learned from a podcast, “mistakes are learnable moments.” Each good and bad experience allows us to grow as individuals.

  2. Oh wow, this is so very true! I wish the world would catch on to this. People who blame others really need to read this and understand it’s true meaning.

    The world would be more peaceful if we all went by this.

  3. I’ve always had to learn my lessons the hard way, which doesn’t make a lot of sense considering they’re the same mistakes over and over!

    I think it was just the insanity of the world I grew up in and always wanting things to turn out differently, even though it never would. I always wanted life to go my way, but I don’t think it ever will.

    My life wasn’t ever easy so I don’t think that will be my lot in life, where others seem to glide through life without a care in the world.

    I had to finally learn the lesson that life isn’t always fair, nor will it ever be! If it was, my daughter wouldn’t have had to deal with CP or anyone else for that matter!

    It turns out that many other people end up with the same mindset. It seems to be a common characteristic in people with addiction issues, from my many years of being in AA! I myself have followed the same patterns where I fought to control my life but only made it that much harder!

    Einstein quoted it so well in saying that, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results!” People so often don’t seem to learn their lessons until they either get ill or die trying.

    I have watched far too many people follow the second path even when I have tried to get them to see things differently. The only thing I can really do is try to do the right thing, myself and hope they decide to follow my example!

    1. Thanks Randy. It’s a hard one, but I have come to believe that life turns out the way we choose. Not in the beginning of course, because we have no control over our parents; but we do have control over ourselves when we become adults.

      When we grow up in a dysfunctional family, we are completely blinded and think our whole lives will always be dysfunctional; but that it’s only when we come to take the blinkers off we see how we can do things better.

      I agree there are a lot of unpleasant things in the world. Like your daughter, I also didn’t ask to be born with Cerebral Palsy. Other people’s mistakes become our disability, but if it’s not something we can change, it’s important to try to let go of dwelling on those things.

      We come into this world knowing nothing about life, but as we grow we come to learn so much. In some cases, we learn ‘how not to do things.’ I feel stronger for learning, for knowing and still see how important it is to continue to try to learn.

      You’re right life isn’t fair, not easy either, but we only get one chance, therefore I believe it’s important we learn our lessons, so that we at least have the opportunity to change our lives.

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